Choose to Speak Life
Speaking Life or Death Over Your Life and Others
Psalm 34:13 says, “Keep your tongue from evil and your lips from speaking deceit.”
Are we using the words from our tongue to build up people or destroy them? Who is in control of your tongue?We must make a conscious decision to control the output of our tongues.
Stop and think about how you communicate. Do your words encourage people to achieve greatness? Do your words support and help someone who is suffering? Do your words nurture, nourish, and inspire your children. I know for me, I have to be conscious of this with my child for sure. They are like sponges that soak up everything and I noticed with my son, that he is still battling with what he believes is right and what he sees others do around and say around him. One night I had a stomach ache and he said to me, “Mommy if you don’t think about the pain then it will go away.” He said that’s what he does when his tummy hurts and I think about it feeling better and before you know it, the pain goes away. Now I am used to him saying wise things by now, but it was something about that moment of feeling like you are doing something right with at least one person in the world because I tell him all the time to watch his words and thoughts and not to say that today is going to be a bad day. It was even more funny when I asked him where did he learn such smart things from and he went on to say, “O I’m just smart like that mommy.” Lol. One thing about it is, one day my son will be a man out in this world trying to figure things out on his own and even if he never gives me any credit, I am happy knowing that I was able to plant seeds and even more happy that ultimately he is learning to give God all of the glory for the way he chooses to think about things. We are merely only vessels here doing what God tells us to do so as long as he is listening to those voices that keep things in perspective that is all that matters.
Throughout this new journey that I have been on in regards to growing my faith in God much differently, I’ve realized that each of us are a work in progress. With that being said, some of us just need extra help to keep us going in the right direction. One thing we can’t control is the number of negative thoughts that pile up in our head on a daily, but we can choose to focus our energy and on the positive thoughts so they can become embedded in our hearts and ultimately come out in the way we speak to both ourselves and others.
So my small contribution to you would be to give you some of the things I do to focus more on positive things so I can help train my words to remain positive for both myself and others.
1). Take time to listen with empathy and compassion, rephrase what that person said, then respond. This is something I am learning in my therapy sessions and I must say when it is done correctly, it is extremely beneficial.
2). Choose to speak life: When someone comes to you with an idea or even a dilemma, you have the power to criticize or give them the truth in love. When I was younger I didn’t care as much as how I said things as long as it was truthful. I soon had an experience that taught me that I had the wrong way of thinking. I learned that it doesn’t matter if it is true or not, people still have feelings and their feelings matter to me.
3). Feed your spirit with positive messages. Listen to motivational messages whether sermons, podcasts, or your favorite motivational speaker. You can also read books with encouraging messages to keep you fueled and armored for war at all times. My all-time favorite go-to person whenever I am down is Sarah Jakes Roberts. There are so many, but somehow she always has an on-time message that I need to hear at that very moment in my life. I just love her transparency and the fact that she had to find her way to the now calling over her life. Each time I listen to a message I am left feeling better than before I started. I would encourage you to find that person for you. Someone that speaks directly to your heart with every message. Someone who you can see parts of yourself in so you can envision where you can go.
4). Take out time to be one with nature to start appreciating God’s creation more. I have to admit I was a late starter in this area. I really feel like 2020 pushed a lot of us out of our comfort zones and I actually started feeling excited about being outdoors more, but only for a particular purpose. Before 2020, I only went outside when I had to be, but then I found myself going outside to find a reason to be more grateful. I would look around at the houses, the grass, the water, the ducks, the trees, the plants, the dogs barking, the neighbors looking, and so much more and just couldn’t help but Thank God for the ability to see, smell and take in all that was before my very eyes. During this time I realized that unless I’m in another city, I never take out the time to soak in all the beauty of the world. I have learned to slow down, take a look around and be more grateful for what’s going right in my life so I am more prone to speak out those things because I am taking out that time to truly show gratitude.
5). It is imperative to use your social media wisely and to spread as much positivity as possible. Even then, it’s still necessary to take breaks to re-focus your energy when it becomes a bit draining.
6). Keep your thoughts positive. “Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honorable, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”
Philippians 4:8 ASV
Take some time to pay close attention to the negative talk that goes on in your thoughts daily so you can be more conscious of eliminating them regularly. You will be surprised how many negative things you say to yourself. Practice more positive affirmations. I am worthy, I am fearless, I am powerful, I am courageous, I am a child of God that can do anything with the help of the Lord.
7). Find scriptures that deliver on God’s promises, learn them, and start each morning with them to serve as a reminder each day that you are worthy and God is Awesome!
8). By learning these scriptures and practicing these things above, I believe you are equipping yourself to stay prepared for war. The enemy will try to cloud your thoughts, test you, bring temptations your way, but stay ready and prepared to fight back. Be prepared to speak life into those occurrences as they arise.
Before we leave: Think about some of the things you can do to help you focus on Speaking Life. Whatever it takes, it is imperative to start somewhere. We are all on this journey to be better, but we have to start somewhere and surround ourselves around individuals that will help keep us accountable for our continued growth. Remember our community represents “Growth over Perfection.” The only things we can truly aim to be perfect in is the way we love one another and our love for God. Everything else will be a continued work in progress so keep striving to be a better version of yourself everyday.